Ok, I know it’s really Thursday. A day late and a dollar short. Oh, well.
I ran a series of posts last year in the months leading up to the Velocity Conference called Wednesdays Are For Women. I’m happy to say it’s back!
Pastors’ wives (PW) and women in ministry are incredible sources of wisdom and creativity as they use their gifts in leadership and service. I highly value their insight, faithfulness, and diligent labor. That’s why I’m hosting Wednesdays Are for Women. Each week, we’ll hear from a different PW or ministry leader and gain her perspective on God’s activity on her ministry team, her local church, or the issues facing church leaders today.
Today, we’ll hear from Christine Hoover from Charlottesville Community Church, in Charlottesville, VA. Christine will be leading a breakout at the Velocity Conference this year. Check out what she’s learned in church planting:
25 Things I’ve Learned About Church Planting
- Hospitality is essential.
- For the church planter, church planting teaches two things more than any other: that God is faithful and how to depend on that faithful God.
- Programs matter a lot to some people, especially families with small children. It takes special families who can grasp the vision of church planting to invest in a church plant on the ground level.
- On the other hand, some people love the early stages of church planting but grow uncomfortable when the church grows to a size where they cannot know everyone.
- Church planting happens one relationship at a time.
- Sometimes church planting feels like you’re pretending to be a church. And then one day (after back-breaking work and lots of prayer) you realize you have an honest-to-goodness church.
- You cannot church plant without support and encouragement from others.
- The Word is living and active. When we let God speak through His Word, He changes people. Every church plant must gather around the Word.
- The church plant often takes on the personality and the passions of the church planter and his wife. This is why it’s important to have biblical vision.
- A lot of people, especially outsiders, don’t know what it means when you say you’re church planting.
- One of the greatest assets and resources a church planter has: other church planters and pastors in the same city. These relationships should be cultivated.
- One of the hardest relationships a church planter may have: other church planters and pastors in the same city. Sadly.
- The calling to church plant must be sure because it will have to be returned to again and again.
- The gospel is everything: it sustains when discouragement comes (and it always does), it keeps a church planter and his wife in their city (because they will want to give up and leave), it compels its ministers forward (and sometimes it’s the only motivation left), and it changes lives (which makes it all worth it).
- A church planter cannot drive by an established church without appreciating what it took to make it that. And he will first think about the secretaries, nursery workers, and janitors.
- As much as possible, a church plant should be structured how it wants to look a year in the future.
- It is unhealthy for the church planter, the church, and especially the church planting wife if she is doing childcare during church each week.
- A failed church plant is not failure. Lack of faith is failure.
- Slow and steady growth is healthy growth. Explosive growth is often fragile growth.
- A good worship leader is essential.
- Spiritual warfare is real.
- Church plants should never be started by a pastor who was disgruntled or unable to sit under authority at their former church. Church plants cannot be rebuttals to another pastor’s way of pastoring. They must be built upon a clear call from God.
- A church planter and his wife must pray for and develop a love for their city, and not just their city and all its coolness, but for the people of their city.
- The church planting wife’s main role in helping her husband is, like Aaron holding Moses’ arms up in battle, praying for and encouraging him to keep on.
- There is joy and reward in sacrifice and service.
Christine and Kyle have been married since 2000 and have three boys. Kyle is the church planting pastor of a church in Virginia, and Christine is a stay-at-home mom, writer, and ministry sidekick to Kyle. Her first book, a book specifically for church planting wives, will be released by Moody in February 2013.