Pastors’ Wives (PW) and women in ministry are incredible sources of wisdom and creativity as they use their gifts in leadership and service. I highly value their insight, faithfulness, and diligent labor. That’s why I’m hosting Wednesdays Are for Women. Each week, we’ll hear from a different PW or ministry leader and gain her perspective on God’s activity on her ministry team, her local church, or the issues facing church leaders today.
Today, we’ll hear from Trisha Davis, wife of Justin Davis, from Cross Point Church in Nashville, Tn. Have you ever been afraid to take a risk? You aren’t alone. Check it out:
It was a year ago my husband Justin and I had the privilege of meeting Shawn and Tricia Lovejoy. They are the kind of people who make you feel loved and valued before they even know your name. So with a deep breath and extended hand we introduced ourselves. Not just an introduction of names but of our story of a cheating pastor, his broken wife, and a mess of a marriage that somehow God redeemed.
The risk of sharing our story with them meant we would have to be vulnerable to their response. Vulnerable to their opinions regarding Justin becoming a pastor again. Vulnerable to their approval of who we are today and the vision and passion God has placed in us to help others.
Risk has a way of sending us from sheer fear to complete exhilaration in just a matter of minutes. Much like riding a roller coaster we dread standing in line watching other people take the risk only to pray our lunch has settled before getting on. But then the time arrives for us to get on, strap in and take the risk. The journey of risking and reaching our destination leaves us with an uncontainable joy and excitement that “we did it”.
Where do you find yourself in ministry these days? Do you sense God nudging at you to risk sticking out your hand and get on a ride but stand paralyzed to do so? Maybe you’ve allowed yourself to remain safe and comfortable being a spectator of other’s risk taking? Maybe for you, you’ve “been there, done that” and the risk didn’t end with joy and excitement but rather disappointment and pain. The thought of risking anything again seems well… too risky.
A year has now passed and the loving couple that greeted us with open arms continues to do so to this day. Taking the risk of being vulnerable has not only lead to an amazing friendship with Shawn and Tricia but they have become some of our biggest cheerleaders! In fact, in February Justin and I have been invited to share our story at Velocity 2012. Maybe this conference is an opportunity for you to begin risking by extending a hand and getting on the ride? A risk that I pray would leave you knowing and feeling the joy and exhilaration that comes when we partner together to risk it all for God.
Justin and Trisha Davis’ return to ministry is the result of a victorious battle for their marriage and family. After successfully planting their first church, Justin had an affair with a staff member, who was also Trisha’s best friend. What followed was a 4-year journey of pain, grief and ultimately the restoration of their relationship by the grace of God. This experience left a watermark on their marriage of what it really means to experience grace, love and redemption firsthand—both individually and as a couple.
In 2009 they founded RefineUs Ministries using their story of failure, loss, and transformation to guide The Church, pastors, and church planters towards a healthy marriage and family. Justin and Trisha are bloggers, authors, and teachers in Nashville, TN where they reside with their three boys. Justin is currently campus and teaching pastor of Cross Point Community Church.