Wednesdays Are For Women: Creating Margin

Pastors’ Wives (PW) and women in ministry are incredible sources of wisdom and creativity as they use their gifts in leadership and service.  I highly value their insight, faithfulness, and diligent labor.  That’s why I’m hosting Wednesdays Are for Women.  Each week, we’ll hear from a different PW or ministry leader and gain her perspective on God’s activity on her ministry team, her local church, or the issues facing church leaders today. 

Today, we’ll hear from Amy Bloye, wife of Brian Bloye, from West Ridge Churchin Acworth, Ga.  Check out how she responds to the busyness of life in ministry.

Creating Margin In Ministry Families
My husband and I often see ourselves in our kids. We see them running back and forth, filling their schedules, and being unable to relax. Now that they are teenagers, their schedules seem to dictate mine. Their ball games, friendships, and over-commitments fill my calendar and keep me hopping.
Do you know what margin is?  Margin is the extra space.  It is the space we create for nothing. This is a huge challenge for me and I am guessing it is for most women in ministry. Sometimes the pages of my life are filled to the very edge, with no more room to breathe, no margin. But if  my family has no margin, what will we do when God wants to step in and do the unexpected, the unplanned? How will we have a still moment to adjust to His plan? We need extra space in our lives for God to move, to make choices with our time, our finances, our friendships, and our emotions.
Friday is our day off. Our boys know that Brian and I spend Fridays going to lunch together and seeing a movie. We relax and replenish on our Friday sabbath. We are trying to teach them that it is important to set aside time to rest, and we are trying to help them create extra space in their own lives. In all of our busyness in ministry, sometimes
our children need to see us doing nothing, valuing rest and simplicity.
They need to see us creating margin.
About Amy:
As wife, mom, and role model/mentor to other church planters’ wives, Amy lives out her mission at home and in her community.  She draws from past experiences of growing up in a pastor’s home and serving as a full-time
educator to help her navigate the ups and downs of being a pastor’s wife to Brian and a mom to her two student athletes, Taylor and Zach.  After 18 years of marriage and ministry, Amy is uniquely equipped to encourage
and inspire church planters’ wives.

One thought on “Wednesdays Are For Women: Creating Margin

  1. Thanks for your post today, Amy. While it’s true that all families need to create margin in their schedules, its especially critical in the life of a pastor’s family. There are 24/7 demands on us that most families don’t experience, and if we don’t create some space for “nothing” we quickly burn out.

    My husband is the Lead Pastor of a 3 year old church plant, and our Sabbath is Tuesday. We sleep in, sometimes go to lunch and a movie, or sometimes just rest or go for a drive. This “breathing room” is as much for our family and our church as for us, because without it, we’re unprepared to face the inevitable pressures of ministry and family life. Thanks for sharing this valuable lesson with other PW’s!


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