A Heart for Pastors and Pastors’ Wives

My husband and I have a deep love for Pastors and their wives.  Being on the front lines of ministry is challenging….more than you can imagine.  So, Churchplanters.com was founded in 2006 to  give church planters and church planting leaders permission to do what it takes  to reach people who are disconnected from Christ and the church.  And, we want to keep those Pastors healthy while they do it!

The great temptation for Pastors/wives and ministry leaders?  To exchange the passion of our walk with Jesus for the administrative details of ministry.  In other words, our ministry becomes a job, not a joy.  When that happens, we are in danger of failing in so many ways: we’ll seek man’s approval rather than God’s; we’ll find our joy in accolades rather than in Christ; we’ll overlook the health of our family as we focus only on church activities; and, some of us will burn out as a result of our own failure to rest as God commands.

Maybe you don’t think it’s much of a problem. Maybe you don’t realize just how common these issues are among those of us in ministry. Over the last two years, my heart has broken as friends – Pastors – have admitted to adulterous affairs. Not one or two…..multiple friends. Enough to make me sick to my stomach as I considered the damage to families and churches across our nation as these men confessed their sin.

If you think men are the only ones who can take their eyes off of Jesus and fail, think again. Out of a group of 150 Pastor’s wives I was recently with, 10 of them confessed to affairs.

More than likely, though, if you are in ministry, you haven’t dealt with issues quite this extreme, but you struggle, nonetheless.  The burdens you bear often get the better of you and effect how you relate to your Team and even your family.  Pastor’s wives (PW’s) across the country have lamented a deep need for a close, trusted friend.  Many of them crave a mentor who could help them on the leadership journey.  Pastors often feel overwhelmed by the magnitude of the decisions before them…..and, at times, feel ill-equipped to lead.

For reasons just like these we host a church planters conference each year designed to not only equip, but also to refresh you as leaders.  This year’s conference, Velocity 2012, just might be my favorite one, yet, though. At our next conference, I’ll host an entire Pastor’s Wives Track – not just one break out session, but FOUR! Pastor’s wives desperately need some refreshment, some refueling, and some time to connect with God and friends. With these ladies in mind, we’re planning two days especially for you!  Check it out:

– Lori Wilhite and Brandi Wilson, of Leading And Loving It, will be here to help us all connect with one another and fill the much-needed “friendship void” that many experience in the loneliness of leadership. I love both of them so much, and they have ministered to me GREATLY over the last two years.

– I’ll share my “Best Practices for PW’s,” 6 practices I use to effectively manage ministry, marriage, and family.  I’ll transparently share the lessons I’ve learned in church planting.

– We’ll enjoy a PW Mixer!  You’ll get to know TONS of new friends…..friends you can connect with in social media long after you leave Velocity 2012.  God will use those friendships to encourage and inspire you! 

– We’ll host a Pastor’s Wives Q&A, too.  What PW Track would be complete without a Q&A session?!  You ask it, we’ll tackle it!  A Panel of PW’s who love the Lord and are anxious to see other PW’s thrive in ministry will be on hand to challenge and equip you.  You don’t want to miss it!

All you need to do is mark your calendar, arrange child care, and REGISTER NOW!  Join me Feb 27-28, 2012 for a ministry-changing, heart-healing, friendship-making 2 day event!  And, stay tuned to SharpenHer.  I’ll upload posts designed just for YOU from now until the conference.

Pastors and Pastor’s wives matter to me…..and to my husband.  Join us at Velocity 2012!

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6 thoughts on “A Heart for Pastors and Pastors’ Wives

    • Hey Jennifer! Although we are certainly geared toward church planters, any Pastor/Team would benefit from our conference! The main session speakers usually address the broad issues that Pastors face, and the break out sessions focus on everything from raising resources to plant a church, reaching the lost, staffing structure, small groups ministries, and of course, the Pastors’ wives track! We offer a highly practical lineup! Keep an eye on http://churchplanters.com. As we near the conference, we’ll upload the specifics of the breakouts. Early bird pricing is available until Sept 30th!

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  1. This sounds great. Love that you even made it affordable. Unfortunately, we are all the way in Phx and a trip to GA would take nothing short of a miracle ;0). I’ll definitely be praying for all the churches involved. Thank you for doing this! Awesome!

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  2. Stacey Viers says:

    Tricia –

    I have loved reading your blog and listening to the free breakout sessions from Velocity 2011. I have a question for you. Our best friends are planting a church and my husband and I are helping them as lay volunteers. What specifically can we do to make their job easier? We have been encouraging them to make time for family and praying for them, but we would love to help in a more practical way as well.

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    • Stacey, thanks so much for reading and listening to Velocity 2011. I pray the recordings help you as you serve in leadership. As a church planter, I have always prized loyalty and encouragement from those closest to me in leadership. I’ve also appreciated their willingness to honor the commitments they make – no matter what. Practically speaking, I would suggest taking over the set up/take down process (if/when you are in a temporary facility) and tell the Lead Pastor and his family to focus on leading the church….not setting it up! What other teams need leaders? Do you need volunteers for the children’s area? Do you need greeters, parking team members, etc.? Take over the process of recruiting these volunteers and coordinating someone to manage them.

      Often in a church plant, the Lead Pastor and his family are not only teaching and discipling, they are also recruiting, advertising, setting up, volunteering, counseling, and managing what little staff they have hired. The most practical thing you and your husband could do is honor them as your leaders and help carry the load.

      Thanks, Stacey, for using your life to further God’s Kingdom. God chose your friends to plant a church. He is going to use them for His purposes. Help them in every way. 🙂

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